Sunday, December 22, 2013

How It Will It Change?

The question was asked, the answer was given.  My best guy friend in this entire world has asked the woman he loves to be his bride.  I couldn't be happier for him and strangely wistful as that same time.

Mike and I have been friends for 16-17 years; and like any relationship, we've had our ups and downs.  But we have remained friends through the yelling, the slamming of the phone, the unfriending on Facebook.  There have been periods of silence and times of constant contact.

He has encouraged me to follow some of my God given talents like writing and photography.  He's given sage advice, which really has been God speaking through him.  He is my go to guy when my heart is troubled.  He's heard me cry until I was empty.  He empathized with my broken heart. He's talked me down when I've been agitated.  This year, he pulled me right off the edge of the abyss.

I have a healthy respect for marriage and the boundaries that it places on friendships, even more so when it's a friendship between a male and female.   It will all change now and that's why I am so wistful.

I am so very over the moon happy for him.  For almost two decades we've talked about finding that special someone with whom to share our lives.  He finally found her and it's been along time coming.  I haven't met her, but I know I like her because he is happy.  What more can you ask for your friend, other than his or her complete happiness?

I can't imagine my life without my best guy friend in it, but I know that change is coming.